The dangers of spiritual bypassing
What is Spiritual Bypassing?
This term is often used to describe the tendency to sidestep deeper raw recovery from our emotional trauma or transformation by focusing on spiritual concepts.
Trauma recovery involves the vulnerability of exploring and finding inner peace with the cause of the trauma, the feelings, psychological problems, relationship difficulties and blocks.
Spiritual Bypassing is used to describe a focus on liberation from the recovery process as a means to get beyond the raw traumatic experiences or ramifications.
The dangers of spiritual bypassing is that the emphasis is on the impersonal over the personal, emptiness over essence, transcendence over embodiment, and detachment over feeling.
Spiritual Bypassing dismisses our need for love, to feel loved and lovable, which can be very harmful in our relationships.
The danger lies in the fact that most of us suffer from childhood traumas that leave imprints into adulthood such as self-hatred, disembodiment, lack of grounding, ongoing insecurity and anxiety, overactive minds, inability to deeply trust, and a deep sense of low worthiness.
The spiritual path is often seen as a focus on using tools such as meditation, contemplation, inquiry, yoga to liberate self from the human dimensions of health, wellbeing, brain function, immune systems, emotional management and day to day stress management.
I find that the notion of this and that is a better concept than this or that.
Spiritual practice needs to go hand in hand with emotional healing.
The spiritual practice of transcending into no-self, without an embodiment of one's own subconscious and unconscious fragility can lead to showing compassion to others from a place of superiority and at the same time not having compassion for one's own self.
The embodiment of the pain of our toxic emotional and psychological experiences can also be an endless process because the ego self is trying to heal itself, without the embodiment of the higher self, which is what spiritual practice is about.
Spiritual practice needs to hold emotional and psychological healing to avoid feelings of self condemnation especially for those of us with intense childhood trauma, who have little or no experience of loving relationships. We only end up feeling worse.
No matter how painful it may be to explore our feelings, wounds, express our creativity or show our vulnerability or need for love, it is important to find ways for us to heal our past trauma at our own pace.
There is no one cap that fits all. There is no one tool or modality that captures all trauma healing and transcendence.
Our commitment to transcending our trauma will require an openness to getting out of our way, going past the ego identities that hold our trauma imprints using whatever tools/permission slips work for us as any level.
This is why I combine spiritual practice, energy healing and emotional resilience in my work.
At the end of the day we are both spirit and physical beings. Our healing as our whole self will engage both the higher self and the physical ego self.
We can learn to be both attached and non attached. Spiritual practice must be integrated with trauma healing.
Spiritual practice with trauma healing involves the ego self allowing, opening up and surrendering to whatever we're experiencing from a place of unconditional love, which is our true essence.
It is a gradual process that allows the unpacking as well as the melting of beliefs, identities, and feelings at different levels from the perspective of a higher frequency of true essence.
Self awareness is key. We become more present to parts of us that were distant in a grounded way. This is the work I do with my clients.
Spiritual bypassing is a real risk when we engage on the spiritual path of awakening without learning how to understand self, manage our own self and our relationships.
We know we are engaging in spiritual bypassing when we will find ourselves only able to embody inner peace when in meditation or alone. Our relationships at home and work will challenge us because of the unresolved issues of the physical ego mind which we need to engage in our day to day.
Our authenticity requires spiritual practice as well as emotional healing, rather than a case of one without the other.
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