Emotional resilience as the bridge between our emotions, mind and true state of being.
According to traditional Psychology, our 8 basic emotions are Joy, Anger, Trust, Fear, Anticipation, Sadness, Disgust, Surprise.
There are many concepts as to how these emotions emerge and what they mean.
Some concepts postulate the non acknowledgment of our emotions and some concepts postulate full ownership of them. It can be confusing to decipher which is correct.
It comes down to self awareness. How comfortable are you with acknowledging your emotions as they emerge? And how does it work out for you when you give them full reign?
If like me, you sit somewhere in the middle then this article is for you.
One thing that I have found in my years of emotional management for mental and emotional wellbeing, is that it is best to have an individual understanding of how to perceive, express and manage your emotions.
It is a common concept that our emotions, all of them, have a time and place, neither one should be glorified or vilified.
Even though there is no doubt that some are more preferred as expressions rather than others
I have found that acknowledging our emotions, with honesty and compassion is fundamental to the quality of our life and our relationships.
Our emotions cannot be separated from our cognitive functioning. The need for integration of our emotions with our thinking, learning, thriving is fundamental.
I find that compassion and unconditional acceptance plays a key role in this integration of our emotions and our cognitive functioning, our perceptions.
For instance, when emotions such as anger, fear, sadness or disgust emerge, they require as much compassion as emotions such as joy, trust, anticipation or surprise In how we perceive and process them in our mind.
We may all have different individual ways of resolving them in order to hold harmony if that is our choice, but compassion, allowing the emergence of the emotion, and being able to remember the notion of one’s true self is key.
This is what I believe true emotional resilience is. It is a bridge between our emotions, our mind and state of being.
Emotional resilience is the capacity to hold space for our emotions, from a place of compassionate authenticity of true state of being.
To feel the real sensations of anger, fear, sadness or disgust emerge, joy, trust, anticipation or surprise, and to understand that they are a part of us, and to discern with compassionate inquiry how to best express who we truly are in that moment.
This requires an understanding of our physical egoic mind and the separation that exists within us with our true authentic being.
We can come to a place where our emotions emerge and we are able to acknowledge them with compassion as we would if a child was expressing themselves to us.
We can come to truly hold space for our emotions from a place of emotional mastery as we interact with others, in business or personal lives for the best outcomes of self and the collective.
This requires the intentional cultivation of our emotional resilience for the loving expression of our true state of being.
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