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Too Unique to Compare

Updated: Mar 5, 2021

The reason why we sometimes compare ourselves with others is because a winner, according to the education and social systems, must compete with others, must survive as the fittest etc.

The thing is we could also see ourself as an individual giving a win our best shot, stepping to our next level.

In other words, a personal competitive approach is only one option that became programmed as “the norm”.

In the workplace, the least decapitative human resource and capacity building approach involves investing in individual staff development and promoting teamwork. Competitive human resource approaches have been shown to lead to poorer staff mental health and higher staff turnover.

When we compare, we may feel compelled to compete, in order to maintain or prove a perceived higher rank or to meet up from a perceived lower rank, or to give up from a perceived bottom rank that could never meet up. As we compare, it is important to remember that each person is unique in how differently the same opportunities available to everyone become our own individual reality.

The seemingly obviously same thing presented to two persons is never experienced exactly the same by the two persons. Science has proven this. There are always so many extraneous variables that conclusions come down to probabilities. This we can understand but we struggle with not comparing ourselves with others in some way, even though we know that there are infinite extraneous variables at play inside each person and in the environment, which impact on outcomes. We are too unique as individuals to compare ourselves with others and hold solid conclusions that impact hugely on our thoughts and emotions.

The meal cooked by the same chef, served from the same pot, by the same staff, at the same time to two persons will not be experienced in exactly the same way by the two persons at consumption. Two siblings raised in the same home have infinite extraneous variables that determine their outcomes, for example genes, connection/bond with caregiver, gender, personality, health cognition etc This is not to mention generational variables within the same family bloodline. The differences that science has shown to exist between identical twins show the futility of arriving at a sound unquestionable conclusion when comparing two persons, whether they come from same genes or from different communities or continents.

We may sometimes choose to compare, however to do it at idle times, for fun and games, not with any seriousness or attachment.

Comparison leads to temporary memory loss, because you forget for an instant, who you really are. We may as beings, human animate or inanimate, all share the same particle of Godforce, or Universal Source Energy, but our individual uniqueness in how we experience life are different for infinite reasons.

If you are finding the habit of taking comparisons seriously, it might be helpful to take the steps you need for this habit to pack its bags and leave.

As you come to realise the futility of comparison, the expanse of Universal Source and your own uniqueness, not to mention your worth and value, thoughts of comparison with others would rarely attach or even cross your mind.

In my programs, I create visions of your own worthy life with you. From a higher frequency of energy vibration you are fully empowered to achieve your goals in any area of your life. As a go getter, you own and celebrate your success and you appreciate and celebrate the success of others. You own your power and you embrace the life you are co creating for your own self with Universal Source.


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