The Journey of Forgiveness and Compassion
- Bola Abimbola
- Aug 3
- 3 min read
Updated: Sep 6
Understanding the Silent Struggles
Many of us have experienced moments when our pain was dismissed or overlooked. Perhaps it was a family member who failed to recognize our struggles, or friends who were too caught up in their own lives to offer support. This lack of acknowledgment can lead to feelings of isolation and resentment. It makes it difficult to forgive not only others but also ourselves for the hurt we’ve endured.
As we begin to own our space, we may find ourselves questioning our right to do so. The voices of doubt can be loud, often echoing the criticisms we’ve faced in the past. Yet, it is essential to remember that our feelings are valid. Our journey toward healing is uniquely ours.
The Dance of Ego and Higher Self
In this journey, you encounter different parts of yourself. The ego self, which encompasses your personalities, often seeks validation and approval from others. It fears rejection and criticism. It may whisper doubts, urging you to shrink back into the shadows of your past.
On the other hand, your higher self: the divine, non-physical, infinite self, knows the truth of your worth and the importance of self-compassion. It encourages you to embrace your physical experiences, to forgive those who have hurt you, and to extend that same forgiveness to yourself.
In my work, I remind my clients that we are not here to force outcomes; we are here to embody the frequency of them. The acts of forgiveness, journaling, and compassion are powerful modalities to heal and embody the frequency of unconditional love.
You come to align with your true essence rather than striving for external validation.
Recognizing this dance between the ego and our higher self is crucial. It allows us to cultivate self-awareness of our thoughts and feelings, creating space for compassion.
When we acknowledge the ego's fears without judgment, we can gently guide ourselves back to the truth of our higher self. This self understands that forgiveness is not about condoning past actions but about freeing ourselves from the chains of resentment.
A Poem of Forgiveness and Compassion
The Path Forward
As you navigate your journey of forgiveness and compassion, remember that it is a process. Allow yourself the time and space to heal the layers. Surround yourself with those who uplift you, and seek out communities that resonate with your experiences.
Embrace the complexity of your emotions, and honor the parts of yourself that have long been silenced. By doing so, you not only reclaim your space but also pave the way for deeper connections with others.
Journaling into Inner Calm is a powerful 14-day process that encourages and supports you to embody the frequency of your desired outcomes. As you cultivate forgiveness and compassion within yourself, you naturally attract those energies into your life.
Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. It is a way to release the burdens of the past and step into the fullness of your being. As you cultivate compassion for yourself, you find that it becomes easier to extend that same grace to others. This creates a ripple effect of healing in your life and beyond.
Embracing Your True Self
The Importance of Self-Compassion
Self-compassion is essential in the journey of healing. It allows you to acknowledge your pain without judgment. By treating yourself with kindness, you create a safe space for growth. This practice helps in understanding that everyone struggles. You are not alone in your experiences.
Building Supportive Connections
Surrounding yourself with supportive individuals can significantly impact your healing journey. Seek out friends, family, or groups that uplift and encourage you. These connections provide a sense of belonging and understanding. They remind you that your struggles are valid and that you deserve compassion.
The Role of Forgiveness in Healing
Forgiveness is a powerful tool in the healing process. It allows you to release negative emotions and move forward. Remember, forgiveness does not mean forgetting. It means letting go of the hold that past hurts have on you. This act of releasing can be incredibly liberating.
Next Steps
Bola Abimbola is an Akashic Record Practitioner, Speaker, Author, Teacher, and Energy Coach for High Performers
If you are interested in experiencing clarity in your definitions, connecting from wholeness, and want to work with her as your coach, check out her work based on Psychology, Metaphysics, Trauma-Informed Quantum Energy Healing, and Light Language Channeling.
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